people begin their journey in the enticing world of Tantra because of sex. Mine
did as well. Not because I wasn’t getting enough of it, but because my partner
at the time was getting more than I was aware of. One afternoon I walked in on
him unexpectedly exploring someone else’s anatomy. My coping mechanism was to
live in each moment. Not to think of the day before and how my stomach seemed
to drop the moment I saw them, or to wonder about tomorrow, living a life that
had changed direction, but to simply be in each present moment. At the time it
was a case of the ‘ostrich syndrome’, putting my head in the sand with my
derriere swaying in the air, but it was my first step on a journey that has
changed and enriched my life. And
many times it has brought me to tears.
are many paths we can choose in our lifetimes. Some touch you like the gentle
summer rain. Is has been said that Tantra is the wild thunderstorm. She churns
in her intensity, bringing destruction and bliss. Tantra is like a wild tiger
mother – approach her in love, in truth and with integrity and she will nurture
you at her breast. Turn to her in greed and she will rip apart your body, feast
on your mind and leave you crying in grief for the wounds that have been exposed.
The wounds you have carefully ignored.
Tantra is weaving, expanding, and being fully aware
of ourselves. Being fully aware of the consequence of every action, every
thought, and every choice. And in how those actions, thoughts, choices, affect
who we are and those around us. Looking honestly at yourself and the reasons
why you make certain choices. By saying this in one way, am I hoping to
manipulate an answer to one I want to hear? If I do this, will I be perceived
as more loveable? What is my response or reaction to words or actions that
trigger something in me? Not only being authentic in who you are with others,
but more importantly, being open to yourself, being brave enough to face
yourself and being loving enough not to judge what you may find there.
To expand, we must let go of attachment. We are
inherently habitual creatures. Some of our habits and patterns are positive.
But they also bind us in a place. There have been many times when I have held
onto my attachment of how my relationships should be and my perception of how I
wanted my life to be. But we lose our free will and we become controlled by
them. When we finally grasp non-attachment to a partner, we open ourselves up
to more love and acceptance. When we gain such freedom, remove any boxes
society & ourselves confine us to, we are fearless and we expand. And the
universe opens us to a multitude of possibilities.
aspect of Tantra involves having the experience of touch. When I experience
that deep contact with myself, with everything, including the universe, in the
stillness of my mind, unexpectedly I find my heart opening, feeling a breeze
move through me that is fresh & renewing. When you touch totally, you no
longer need to let go. You simply do. And in that very moment, healing begins.
We all are spiritual, psychological, emotional and sensual beings and working
with our sexual energy allows us to touch both our body and emotions to clear
blockages through our energy channels. Our sexual energy is one of the
strongest forms of physical energy; simply, it is nature’s inherent way of
ensuring our survival. We can use this energy to gently release
negativity, pain, trauma and experiences that we store in the cells of our
bodies, allowing us to expand in every aspect of our lives - personal,
emotional, relationships, spiritual and sexually. This commanding energy that makes me wonder each time if I
have ever taken a breath so fully and immersed before.
practice includes controlling and transforming bodily energies and we can do
this through meditation and breathwork. This allows energy to move and we
release things we don’t even realise we were hanging on to. When we begin to
free ourselves from the preoccupation of seeing ourselves as a single star, but
take a step back and appreciate the beauty & vastness of the galaxy, the
weave of stars and dust. With every meditation, a greater feeling of freedom
and awareness arises. Moving past resisting change. Moving past the resistance
of facing the truth of our lives. When we choose to live instead of exist. When
we choose to heal. Active
Kundalini meditation is the process of witnessing while being engaged in
activity, helping to release stress, rebalances the mind and body bringing
about physical and mental relaxation. It aids in suspending the rational
mind and allows the natural self to begin to emerge and rather than repressing
negative emotions like attachment, they are transformed into positive energy.
Tantra is the union of sex and meditation, being in the present moment,
accepting sex in its totality, relaxing into lovemaking and expanding the
capacity for pleasure, but it is also is about connection. About giving oneself
permission to access your authentic self that too often is buried, the
sensitive and sensual gentle nature. It is about both opening to receive
pleasure and accepting ones physical and emotional feelings in their entirety.
It is also challenging in that in experiencing it, you open to life, which many
do not do. Many think that Tantra is limited to the bedroom and to sexual
prowess but while accessing sexual energy is core to Tantra, it is about
opening to life itself.
Karen O'Moore August 2012
A slightly edited version of this article can be found in the Sept/Oct issue of Natural Connections Holistic Magazine